Third Try
This is the story of me + The Ultimate Black Belt Test. First try: failed. Second try: failed. Third try: supposed to be charmed. This is it.
Thursday, October 13, 2016
Growth Mindset Coaching: Practice Not Perfection
Wednesday, July 13, 2016
DO OVER - Jon Acuff on the escape of being STUCK and my HERO project
A small setback, a cold. Now it's weeks later and I've failed my own push up challenge and missed BJJ for at least a month. I did start reading this book: Do Over, Jon Acuff. It has changed the way I'm thinking about this test and my work. I'm still reading it so there's bound to be more but so far my top takeaway is this- I'm changing the hero part of my test. The first section of the book is about relationships. I realized that I've been looking for heroes my whole life. I've studied work that I admire.
There was a girl in Junior High, I can't remember her first name but her last was La-something beautiful sounding and French. She was fancy. I was plain. She was colorful. I was invisible. I studied her. She stood with her feet turned out...I thought then from her hours at the barre and her grace...now I realize she was exaggerating. Prideful. Arrogant. Not a very nice person. But the crowd where I was lost, parted and seemed to bow as she walked. So I watched.
Just watched. I didn't try to walk like her. I didn't try to style myself like her. I just studied and measured. She was seen because of who she was and I was invisible because of who I was. I really didn't want to be that, I just admired it. I admired the way people reacted to her. Shallow, yes. But just being real.
Still. I do this still. I get that looking at heroic work is supposed to be inspiring. I get that people doing excellent work should be seen, but are often invisible. My point in all this is that I want to be my own hero. I want to do my own work. I've watched and studied other people long enough.
So, no more hero profiles for me. Instead, I'm going to do 10 things to become my own hero. And, back to the book that made me think about all this, I'm going to work much more on relationships. I want to be seen by the people that actually matter to me. I've spent so much time on looking at the fancy people and disguising myself in those images that I'm not sure my own people know who I am. I think the way to start is by looking at who they are and having the courage to be my vulnerable with them.
Wednesday, June 8, 2016
Diet NOT on point: UBBT and my M & M problem.
Monday, June 6, 2016
Week 1 Numbers May 30 - Jun 5
Started back at 0 this week and kept a log in my planner. This will evolve as I add on but here is the basic set up.
Reality: Fell short of the goal numbers. Better planning will help.
Positive: I did push ups every day.
Thursday, June 2, 2016
Back At Zero: Week 1 Round 3
I've decided this: Stop looking for an easier way! Just do the work.
I dug out my journal from April/May 2014. That's when it was working. Instead of trying to figure out an easier (there's not one) way I'm just going to do what I was doing then. Embrace the suck, as one of my accountability partners would say.
Back at zero.
But this time I have experience of having tried and failed. Failing isn't the end of this for me, was a lesson. This time zero is a different starting point. I'm better equipped because of my experience. I'm stronger because of my experience. What will it take to see this through? Just do the work!
Tuesday, May 10, 2016
Telling the Truth About My Weight & Showing Evidence of Progress - My Ultimate Black Belt Test Journal
First of all, I'm going to say this: I am very healthy. Physically. This is not about the physical. This is not about my physical health. This is about what I see when I look in the mirror. This is about how I think I appear to others. That struggle is so old and familiar to me that it's often hard to recognize which makes it difficult to change.
I identify with overweight and out of place. Even now. I'm not overweight or out of place. I maintain a healthy weight and have certainly found my place. Even though I've lost (more than once) a bunch of pounds and transformed my body from weak to strong...I still struggle. I've realized that I keep myself here because of fear. I'm afraid of not knowing who I am if I let that part of me go. It is what I know.
"You wanna fly, you got to give up the shit that weighs you down." -Toni Morrison
I've resisted this part of the Ultimate Black Belt Test for the past two years and it's time I let go. I posted about my weight before, but I waited until I was happy. Until I felt ready. I didn't include any photos or what I was eating or how I was exercising, really all I was doing was talking the talk. No evidence. Since then I've gotten clear on what I want from this test: discipline and telling the truth.
So here's the first of my REAL progress posts.
In these photos (that I took today) I weigh 162.2 with 18.6% body fat.
Not bad...but it's not my ULTIMATE either.
It's like this is my off season condition, and game day is coming. So I'm going to get ready...and I'm going to keep you posted on how it's going and exactly how I'm doing it.
What I'm eating: mostly Vegetarian. Not strict. I just like vegetables more and I like meat less. No added sugars. I started this again a few months ago and I really like it. It helps me stick to eating simple, minimally processed food.
Short term food goal: meal prepping
Today's workout: I used my TRX to do 30 (10-10-10) rows and ass to grass squats then ran up and down my street. I'm not sure how far it is, but I ended up with around 13,500 steps for the day. The main idea was to get my heart rate up and move me towards my goal of at minimum 10K steps daily. I did that twice. I also did 50 push ups and a 200 rep ab workout.
Short term workout goal: be consistent
Wednesday, May 4, 2016
Alabama Build-Vention 2016 Highlights
I took many pages of notes during the talks. Processing those along with thinking about the observations and experiences now that I'm home continue to inspire plans for my future.
Meeting and talking with Ali Fuller, founder of Level Ground Mixed Martial Arts in Boston. Her program and the way the thinks and talks about martial arts to enrich the lives of young people is revolutionary. She is and example of grit and perseverance on and off the mat.
Getting to hug Cathy Chapaty. We have been virtual friends for a few years now and have shared deeply with each other, but had never physically met. That was a good hug. Being able to talk and work with her was a gift. We have future work to do together which hasn't been revealed, but I know it's going to be good. Soul work. Kindred spirit work.
Reconnecting with the people I met last year was wonderful. It was visiting my tribe.
Being around and soaking in the lessons from one of my teaching heroes, Tom Callos. He is the reason I'm doing this crazy program in the first place. He talks about practicing and teaching the martial arts like nobody else. The language that he uses and the multitude of ideas he gives freely can change the way you think about your work. It certainly has for me.
My biggest take away was watching the young people. Their level of engagement was astounding. It was clear that this was not by accident, it was coming from their time spent in martial arts and the influence of the mentors in their lives. I teach all ages, but really my job is working with young people. I don't think I fully understood the power of that role. This clarity was a thought shift for me, and I know the impact on my program will be huge.